The following is something I have been doing for the last years now each January.
It’s become a valued habit of mine to look back at the past year and sort of pin down some of the recurring topics, that I believe will become even more relevant in the years to come. The headline of this post also could have been: “Common themes we saw first in the last years, that will keep getting more and more important/influential within the next decades.”
It’s good to have stumbled upon those patterns already and have some heightened awareness, when they’ll eventually become more urgent in the near future. Perhaps they won’t, I’m not predicting any specific future here, I’m just trying to make a semi-educated guess and with the understanding of “preparation is key” in the back of our minds, it doesn’t hurt anyway to have had a glance already.
One of the huge benefits of multi-disciplinary expertise is that the synergies created help to expose patterns. As I’ve been saying before, in order to navigate through this world with ease, you need detailed maps of that very world and the ability to improvise and trust your inner voice, once the maps are wrong. This is just a different phrasing for ying and yang, outer game and inner game. Detailed maps are gained by reading a lot of different, difficult stuff from a broad variety of topics daily. It’s bulk loading your mind with theory. The ability to improvise and trust your inner voice is learned by pro-actively engaging in life and the insecurities that come along. It’s constantly being in a massive action-taker frame of mind. One is useless without the other.
So, this post today is about enriching your maps with more detail to help you navigate the world in a more efficient way.
Common Theme #1: Culture of Hate
Hate has become a problem in the western world, because it has become a socially accepted mindset. And as a mindset it has become the default response towards anything “not us” and anything unfamiliar. It’s a protective coping mechanism rooted in the desire to make the world LESS complex, so that a very simple map is sufficient to navigate it somehow. If my opponent is a douchebag, it’s pretty easy to neglect his opinion and focus on things I believe already. But if my opponent is an equally complex human being, that used similar, analog rationality to come to his conclusions, I’m only left with the option to at least consider his opinions on a content based level or else I turn into a douchebag myself.
In order to understand his standpoint, I have to exert mental energy, because his conclusions go against my own established beliefs and questioning those creates cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is preferably avoided by most people. It’s stressful. It messes with a deep internal desire (slightly more dominant in males) to bring things to an end. And that’s exactly where the root cause for our hate culture is. People haven’t acknowledged yet, let alone internalized that the world is an endless stream of nonsensical bullshit. It happens and happens and happens again. “Everything’s gonna be alright” is an illusion told to kids, so that they keep going.
So, if our resistance to an ever-changing world is the inner game, then it’s outer game equivalent is hate. It’s like other lower-consciousness behavior patterns a “defense against change” and avoidance of cognitive dissonance.
What’s interesting about this is that cognitive dissonance is only a problem, as long as energy ressources are scarce. Within a hostile environment every opinion differing from my own is a threat to survival. If we were to go back a few 100.000 years, I’d say there are good reasons for hostility expressed via hate and everything it brings along. From tribal competition, differing survival strategies, genepool variety, environmental adaptability as a race to group bonding, group compliance and sacrifice…the list goes on and that’s likely why it’s still prevalent as an emotion/mindset/reaction pattern today. But if you go from many little, regional, symmetrical, isolated tribes of 150 people each to one global, asymmetrical, interconnected tribe of 7 billion, things change and advantages can become disadvantages, scarcity becomes abundance.
Regardless whether hate is an engrained ‘heritage’ or not, I believe humans to be extremely adaptive creatures, able to do differently and go against initial impulses, when survival pressure forces humans to.
I didn’t introduce or lead into this hypothesis, because from all the described patterns here hate is the most obvious one. Even fully plugged-in, mainstream guys have a feeling there’s something brewing here.
Look at the comments of any Youtube-Video. Look at the reactions towards Google changing that very comment-system to force Google+ into it. Over at medium.com, probably the most buzzing blogging platform right now, one blogpost made the first 2 ranks again and again and again and again of the platform’s monthly Top100. I’m aware, that that post is located in Medium’s “Comedy Corner”, but still, have a look at it. It’s basically about mocking some guy being too dumb to know how to make a burrito. Justified hate disguised as humor. And funny enough, most of the responses to that post were filled with hatred, too, angrily asking why that blogger didn’t simply use a fork, to which that blogger then again had to respond with a spiteful update. The vibrational frequency in which that post is written resonates with people. Like a tuning fork. Or look at this Samsung commercial, which parodies what Android users believe to be typical Apple customers. What about Microsoft’s Scroogled campaign? What about paleo VS vegan? Religion VS atheists? Republicans VS Democrats? Obamacare YES/NO? Pepsi or Coca-Cola? What’s your opinion on gay marriage, abortions or gun control? No matter what side you’re on, I can tell that your default reflex is one of hate towards the other side and their stupiditiy. It’s already engrained. I barely touched the surface with my few and random examples.
And it doesn’t even have to be about polar opposites. Look at the way people drive. Do they curse? Do you notice anger and honking horns a lot? Dismissal of one’s own reality/importance/absoluteness generates hate as a means to silence that self-questioning source.
See, from a marketing and branding perspective: HATE is the desired response. It automatically positions you to be in the camp of that which you don’t hate. Give them an enemy and they will gather. Simple. When both camps hate enough, both parties win, because the Third Alternative disappears. Try having a smartphone today that isn’t Apple nor Android. Try having NO smartphone these days. It’s nearly impossible and that’s why brands want you to hate. It’s the easiest way of target demo acquisition, brand loyalty for free on top.
See, because of increasing technologization the world gets more and more addictive. Therefore more and more individual resilience is necessary to counter-act those addicting temptations. And one element of modern day resilience is a nuanced awareness of our prevailing Culture Of Hate and the ways, in which it instrumentalizes people.
Bare in mind, this is not an absolute observation of a deeper truth, but just a cultural tendency of this moment in time. I deeply believe people are good and friendly. I believe wealth and prosperity will increase as mankind marches on. I believe we’re generally prepared to tackle future’s challenges, but right now as technologization gains speed, there happen to be side effects. One of them being the just described “ad personam”-reflex in people to dismiss with ease in order to avoid stressful energy expenditure.
For 2014 I suggest to read the following books:
- Spiral Dynamics by Don Edward Beck
- Tribal Leadership by Dave Logan
- The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt
All 3 books provide a crucial and essential understanding of the fact that different people think in different paradigms of themselves, others and the world relative to their personal stage of development, upbringing, influences and surroundings. There are causal/correlational reasons for each stage and there’s validity in each person’s acting. Stages obviously differ in the degrees to which hostility and hatred are shown or existent as a reaction pattern, but to reflexively go ad hominem and simply dismiss someone as a whole, when that person disagrees with you, won’t work any longer in the coming decades. The foundational paradigm of my “progretarian approach” is the idea, that you become the best version of yourself and then help others to become the best versions of themselves, so that mankind can continue to thrive on this planet. This inherently involves a capacity to not take paradigmatic, narrow, extreme expressions of people’s realities personal and give them guidance to the next stages of healthy being regardless of one’s own petty interests.
With the model of Cyclical Progress in mind, remember that the solution to move forward is always found in a balanced middle. This is why full on empathy is no valid antidote against hate, because it’s just the other extreme. Both are stuck in the same, flawed paradigm.
If you haven’t read it yet, then add Stephen Covey’s “The 7 Habits if Highly Effective People” to that list, too. It’s, as well, written in a way that tries to shed light on different paradigms of thinking, that vary in their degrees of hostility. The Kindle version is on sale right now, too, so you shouldn’t think twice.
As a proactive exercise try implementing the habit of daily meditation. If you followed my line of thought above, then hate simply is an expression of resistance, whereas the solution to this lies in non-resistance.
Common Theme #2: Mental junk food
When market competitors decide to engage in a race to the bottom, the aforementioned “increasing addictiveness of things” is one resulting effect of that. A race to the bottom always leads to a loss of quality, otherwise it’s no race to the bottom. In Europe you can observe this, when you compare the retail company Primark with H&M. Primark is essentially H&M on steroids, which seems to work up to this point, but you simply can’t go cheaper than free. There’s a physical limit in every race to the bottom.
So, in order to keep customers hooked in such a race-to-the-bottom-market, you have to pull a different set of strings and amp up various elements of your product, so that it stays competitive. In terms of food the common tricks are simple. Producers simply change amounts of Salt, Sugar, Fat and naturally grown makes way for factory produced down to the last ingredient. This has turned into a wide-spread epidemic and the food products with the worst salt-sugar-fat-ratios are usually the cheapest. Look at the shelves of your supermarket. A pack of Spaghettis and a Ketchup bottle is the cheapest option by far to feed a family and the surest way to make all of them overweight. The second cheapest option is the fast food takeaway, which makes people just as fat. This obesity epidemic has been going on for quite some years now and I believe we’re close to leaving the negative extreme in this decade in terms of Cyclical Progress. The whole paleo movement, all those vegans and a massive emphasis on local, organic and sustainable have increased awareness a lot. The notion that there’s a correlation between specific food intake and health is gaining power. It’s not just about the calories and it’s not just about the amount of accompanying workouts anymore. Everything is connected. Food is fuel and which specific fuel you intake governs the quality of energy available to you.
But. There has been a second junk food epidemic going on, secretly infiltrating most people’s daily lives from under the radar. And this epidemic is not about physical junk food you eat, but about mental junk food you consume. 2013 saw the rise of the viral news platform. Buzzfeed and Upworthy are its most prominent examples, that transform shallow and weird content into viral superworms by masterfully playing the social media piano and exploiting people’s emotional hot buttons. Things of no relevance whatsoever get shared the most, simply because they were designed to get shared by a numbed, lower consciousness crowd. Next to those Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest are of course well established social media platforms, all able to provide each user with a unique stream of information (I don’t dare to call it News) catered exactly to his needs, search queries and brands he likes. On top of that, Google and Facebook introduced social graphs and edge ranks which potentially cut a user off from digital information research outside the boundaries of his social circle. Mainstream media meanwhile happily plays along as it understands as well the importance of clicks. Things get shortened and shortened to a point where only the headline is left. Everything gets blown up, made more important than it is, everything gets sensationalized and dramatized. Breaking news 24/7. TMZ puts illusionary narratives on top of events for the lower classes to digest. The Internet has morphed into one huge signal-to-noise problem. More and more noise and less and less signal.
Media junk food is a side effect of this. In order to get through to the consumer, increase quality and become a great signal or dumb down and find a common denominator among huge, differing masses. Social media platforms like Vine and Snapchat are born out of this. Do we really need time restraints on videos and picture messaging? No, but Vine without the time restraint is Youtube and Snapchat without the time restraint is just another imessage, Whatsapp, Facebook, Instagram clone. Those artificial, but deliberate time restraint implementations are a cultural response to the massive, massive amounts of noise people feel they are exposed to. “I don’t have any time, gimme the gist of it!” Facebook started to integrate the like button as a response option in private messaging lately. Why? Emoticons and stickers are a tremendous growth market in any chat platform. Why? Because those give people overwhelmed by noise and exploding inboxes the chance to still reply.
Have you had the realization lately that your life is so busy, movies don’t fit into it any more? Work, hobbies, social circle, family, events, gatherings, after work and gym. I keep hearing this left and right. At least my social circle really doesn’t go to the movies anymore. Who can afford to spend 3 hours at a stretch to watch the next Hobbit sequel? Of course, anyone could, if he just wanted to. It’s an illusion, because the amounts of time available to us have been, are and always will be the same. 24 hours a day. What has been changing drastically are the things occupying the spots available in our calendars. Those become more and more aggressive. So, while people believe there’s no time for the Hobbit anymore, in reality they consume 10-20 hours of Breaking Bad, Dexter and Game of Thrones per season. They consume way more and all that has been reconditioned are the attention spans of the viewer.
So, next to an obesity epidemic regarding our bodies, there’s a simplicity epidemic regarding our minds. Although people are digitally connected like never before, their streams of information are isolated, simplistic and narrow like a hundred years ago. A whole generation becomes conditioned to blown up, sensationalized cat accident videos, perceiving the things in their Instagram and Facebook feeds as real events, interspersed with soundbites from Fox News, collectively activated via push messages. With the heavy shift to mobile, we currently live in a single important screen world. Whatever app is active at the moment, dictates what we are exposed to and thereby consume. This explains why Twitter launched Vine and Instagram gets additional features every 8 weeks. On top of that Google Glass is just around the corner, about to open up whole, new arenas of occupying our attention.
The emphasis is on short and sensational. That is what gets through.
Porn is the lowest form of mental junk food in this understanding. I don’t want to judge the first generation in history with broadband internet and FullHD cameras. It’s fully fine with me and if you enjoy rubbing one out, go for it. It’s mental junk food nonetheless, because it’s usually a substitute. Noone actually wants to sit in front of a screen and please himself, while mentally agreeing to the rules of the plot presented. Yes, sometimes it’s just letting off steam and again, it’s fine with me, but I still consider it junk for the brain, because it quietly and slowly shuts off the impulses that make you go for what you really want: real women.
“Short” and “sensational” are harmful implications for any society in the digital age, because it threatens the weaker individuals and robs them of possibilities to better themselves on their own. What is a kid today supposed to do? What if Facebook, Snapchat, Coca-Cola and Upworthy help not to raise the kid, but his mind – partially? What if there’s no sufficient, parental supervision, no educated reflexion on topics, no second layers of information gathering via tribes and libraries, no holistic, overarching thinking patterns, no critical education system creating versatile thinkers? What if the virtually created buzz feels real? What if what’s happening on screen, is perceived to be really happening instead of being orchestrated to provoke emotions and then sell stuff/opinions/agendas/lifestyles attached onto it?
In a world that gets more and more complex, multitudinal, asymmetrical, coincidental and multidimensional, the bar gets raised everyday. More general education is necessary for each individual, not less. The bullet point posts of the Mashables and Lifehackers won’t help you thrive or draw an acurate map of the world rich in detail.
In a way we see a similar evolution of things as we did with spam mails. 10 years ago email spam-filters weren’t up to par and the simpletons of our society fell for the tricks and believed what spam mails told them. Viagra for free, Bahamas and the lottery jackpot. This raised awareness, which then forced resilience on individual and collective levels. When resilience becomes big enough the threat disappears. Nowadays spam mails are mostly a thing of the past. The tricky thing with the news and the ever shortening soundbite are, they are a lot more subtle than spam mails. Once you get an understanding for spam mails, they become a pain in the ass. They are obviouly hostile and you want them to disappear. But who wants funny 6 second Vine videos and a unique Facebook stream full of events from your friends to disappear? Who wants the big, heavy newspaper and not the 140 character tweet?
It doesn’t matter that the few 100 tweets you read each day actually take up more time to read than that big and heavy newspaper would. It’s about perception and people get conditioned to focus on short-sightedness.
For 2014 I suggest a strict, year long news diet.
I started my own news diet on Christmas Eve 2012 and never looked back so far. I don’t miss a single thing and I’m not in any disadvantage whatsoever. It’s amazing how little the news matters and is relevant at all. It’s like Dobelli explains in his articles, everything of real importance reaches you through word of mouth, everything else is noise. Try it yourself and experience how many brackets of time are available to you all of a sudden. It was the best thing I stuck with this year. I’m calmer, I have more time to read books and am generally more interested to engage, because I tend to cut off news chatter with friends and instead ask about their lives. I missed all natural disasters, all terrorist attacks, all political scandals and all breaking news this year and I’m totally fine. Check the links above and give it a try. A one year social experiment is no big deal. You can still skip early or return to news consumption as you please. At least you have to tell a nice story later on about the year where you personally boycotted the media.
In addition to this I want you to check out
- “Trust Me, I’m Lying” by Ryan Holiday
- Have You Ever Tried to Sell a Diamond? by Edward Jay Epstein
- “We Have Breaking News: You Don’t” by The Last Psychiatrist
- “Manufacturing Consent: The Political Economy of Mass Media” about Noam Chomsky’s book with the same title.
It’s crucial to deeply internalize that you are not some third party beneficiary of the news. You are the target demo. The news is not there to educate you, but to hook you by design, so that you lose yourself emotionally in some narrative and then indulge in buying the advertised things. Of course this is very black and white and there is no conspiracy going on. An educated person can read between the lines and tell right from wrong, reality from theater. But it’s just as black and white to assume the opposite and perceive news outlets as well intentioned distributors of neutral information. Journalists write stuff to sell it.
Common Theme #3: The “I don’t understand”-Dilemma
The formation of the Internet forced a global information-revolution and created many, many new forms of jobs that weren’t in existence before. This is great, important and necessary. One side effect of rapid technological advancements though is what I call “the discomfort of tomorrow”. When new technologies emerge, they disrupt the status quo and tend to replace a certain low-level set of human workforce. The ones with the linear tasks. The assembly line workers. The cashiers, tellers and cab drivers. As I’ve been saying before, the more repetitive a job is, the more likely it is that a machine will do it in the next years. This again, is an expression of a cultural, socio-economical shift we’re experiencing called race to the extremes, or in Seth Godin’s words: race to the bottom and race to the top.
The iPhone as a device is only about 6 years old. We’re really just seeing the tip of the Iceberg so far.
The demand for excellence and the demand for dirt cheap will keep growing exponentially and when your only two options left are either up or down, this rush creates a vacuum in the middle of society. It polarizes things. Society doesn’t need a pizza boy anymore. A drone can do that job without demanding holidays. Bye bye, pizza boy! But we do need some engineers to build that drone. Welcome, engineers!
It’s an obvious equation. Sort of. A 100 years ago, society promised you to be better off than your ancestors simply by you following the rules in front of you. Go to school, get a degree, marry young, pay your taxes, don’t make a ruckus, settle in suburbia, buy a car, obey to authorities, spend evenings in front of TV, vote for the person media approves of, get your things from the super market and go on vacation twice a year. The Henry Fords of the time created such an economic surplus that an average person with average effort could make a decent living. The social contract that provided our fathers and grandfathers with such a decent life is long gone though and its echo is still here. That’s why people are irritated and confused. Society is still run by this plot of obedience, conformism and trust in group think.
We go to school and trust the system. We go to college and trust the system. We get a degree and trust the system. We marry and trust the system. We buy and pile up credit, while trusting the system. We want to own property, because we trust the system.
When things go wrong, there’s an amazing dumbfoundedness. “I don’t understand.”
“Why? What? Huh?”
People get laid off and they never saw it coming. People get sick and can’t pay for treatment and they never saw it coming. Banks want their money back and people never saw it coming. People get diabetes and never saw it coming. They go broke and there’s no concept of turning it around. Shit happens and people never saw it coming.
It’s not that most folks are not engaged. They revolt and occupy Wall Street, they march and write petitions, but once the sea saw of power tilts in their direction there is no concept of what to do from then on. “I don’t understand. We did what we were told. Why don’t things turn out for the better?” Look at all the revolutions and civil wars in the Arabian world and Eastern Europe. The despots got thrown over for the most parts, but what changed afterwards in those countries? What will likely happen in Ukraine after the current protests? What about “Occupy Wall Street”?
This is not a question of intelligence, but rather one of shortsightedness. The system we have created over the last centuries still molds most of the people into worker bees, while what we actually need are queen bees taking charge of difficult decisions and embracing to stand out from the masses. The unsatisfied masses making up Occupy Wall Street graduated from a “school of life” that simply did not prepare them to come with concepts, when things change out of the blue. Disagreement only gets you so far.
Do you know anyone who got a degree and wasn’t able to enter the job market? Do you know anyone who moved back in with their parents? Do you know any people who left the country and are now 4-hour-work-week bloggers based in Singapore, Thailand or Argentina? Do you know any people who have to juggle multiple jobs to keep up? Do you know of any families where dad as well as mom have to work full time jobs?
Technology shapes us, because it’s essentially an extension of us. And this shaping process gains more and more momentum. So it’s not that society is bad, the world is hostile and politicians want to exploit the little man. The rules given to you by family, teachers, authorities and culture are well-intentioned. They used to be true in the 60s, but today they are completely and utterly out of date.
Things change and this is simply a lesson in adjustment. Learn to go with the waves. Again, because energy available via food has been a scarce resource for most of mankind’s history, the human brain tends to look for short cuts to not waste that precious energy. We learn XYZ and then zone out, going into autopilot from then on. Whenever anything remotely similar to XYZ pops up, we respond with the standard routine. That’s why for most people work is extremely boring and the only times they really feel alive is on vacation, because there’s no autopilot script to fall back onto. At least for the first few times, because most people tend to visit the same place each year again.
“Once I have a map, I follow those guidelines. Period.”
It’s understandable and it got our parents through the 20th century, but it won’t do for the 21st century. We’re like horses returning to the same water sources over and over, because they nourished us in the past. The sources are elsewhere now and so we have to roll with that.
Within the next decades more people than ever before will thrive. But not because they show up at 9am, perform linear routine task they are told to do and leave at 5pm. Those were the leisure 40s and 50s. That’s over. People will thrive, because they put in the effort necessary. People will thrive, because they get their world view in alignment with what’s actually going on. People will thrive, because they go against the status quo and embrace their own, innate weirdness. People will thrive, because they understand there’s a responsibility renaissance taking place. Risks and rewards are not in some corporation’s hands anymore, but back in your own. This new social contract only works with the strict commitment to keep the maps sharp and accurate and have them challenged daily with real world feedback.
It’s crippling to see people get caught in the trap of short-sightedness and fall victim to outdated trust in the system. “I don’t understand…!” has become so common and at the same time so easy to avoid. The tools to connect, accumulate and actualize are all there. All it takes is an understanding that every man is responsible for himself. No signing of an employment contract, no vote, no kind of money, noone else will change this.
For 2014 I suggest to read
- “Average Is Over” by Tyler Cowen
- “What the fluck!” by Adam Curtis
- “The Octopus” by Frank Norris (Kindle version is free)
- “The Education of Millionaires” by Michael Ellsberg
- “College of One” by Sheilah Graham
- “How I Read” by myself
Internalize that just like a piece of software you need regular updates to keep functioning properly. Education and learning don’t end, when you leave college. It’s not about knowing more than the next person or knowing something first to have an advantage. It’s about carving out your own unique path with as much detail-rich information as possible. Of course, noone can read or understand it all. That’s why humans cooperate.
But for the path ahead of you, you need to do more than your ancestors had to do at similar stages in their lives. Which is fine, because you’ll get rewarded more as well.
Common Theme #4: Male Impotence
Male impotence is why divorce transformed from a safety net into a game plan. It’s why Americans decided twice to have a black President for the first time in history. It’s why the Big Bang Theory is popular. It’s why Internet Porn is exploding. It’s why feminism seems to be necessary. It’s why James Dean wouldn’t resonate with people today, but some androgynous guy in Twilight does. It’s why the media mocks the symbol of “the father” in ads. It’s why Christianity and Judaism are in decline in the first world. It’s why CEOs are perceived as greedy manipulators. It’s why corporations aren’t viewed as super organisms that create excess value for host nations, but as parasite fraternities on steroids. It’s why women consider to become cops and men consider to become elementary teachers. It’s why children and teenagers have an easier time to hate on dad, instead of mom.
We’re at the crossroads historically. There is no guarantee that we survive as a race. Climate change, exploitation of ressources, pollution, over population, wars, super bacteria, cancer, Aids, toxic chemicals in fabrics and goods, nuclear energy, solar colonization. And everything’s powered by constantly evolving technology. You can spend a few lifetimes trying to tackle only one of those urgent issues. The advent of all of those combined makes up for a package to huge too ignore. And I don’t mean to be conspiratorial. Mankind always had to face nearly impossible challenges from ice ages to famines to Black Death. The only difference this time is that we have built channels of communication and cooperation that allow us to speak with one voice and act as one swarm. The swords in our arsenal are sharpened enough to slay the dragon on the horizon.
And that’s the core irony of it all. The weapon is available. The enemy is in sight. The tower is built to ring the bell and warn your fellows.
But noone showed up so far. Noone raised his hand yet and yelled “Let’s do this! I’m up for it!”. And it doesn’t have to be nor won’t be a single person. I’m talking about a rise of awareness in the collective mind of mankind, so that a snowball becomes an avalanche over time.
Like a pendulum young guys in the first world go from nihilism and boredom back to over-stimulation and excess. It’s an excuse to think there are no battles to be fought. The challenges are there. Plenty of them. But somehow we have created bubbles, virtual worlds and microcosms, that allow young men to opt out and proclaim “Not me! I’m good.”
See, the human penis is a device that HAS to get hard at times to do its job. It HAS to penetrate and enter foreign territory. It HAS to shoot its gift out there, without knowing whether there’ll be a reward down the line. It HAS to do this over and over again. The analogy is obvious. It’s true for male behavior in general as well, not only for intercourse with eventual reproductive success. Call this destiny, if you will. This is what men have to do: get hard, when needed, enter the darkness and give their gift again and again without the desire of geting something return.
That’s the core dilemma. Men do get hard, but not to leave a dynasty behind. They do it for their own benefit and enjoyment. They do penetrate, but not on nature’s terms, on their own. And they give, only to receive.
In a way, one of my foundational mantras “1st half of life = ME-focus / 2nd half of life = YOU-focus” is a diplomatic remix of that.
We’re experiencing a cultural vacuum of men not taking responsibility in the first world. It’s as if the whole country is alive and running, but its king has been asleep for years. People get by and keep doing what they’ve always done, but somehow there’s no real progress.
“What’s in it for me?” is probably the most destructive mindset out there today. Humans are not designed to move as a selfless swarm. We’re designed as individuals with different skills and abilities to combine them and to have adaptability in whom we choose as a leader. Different leaders are necessary for different times. I’m not nostalgic about socialism or communism or other utopian/dystopian visions. I want people to have everything they want AND even more. Only free markets provide appropriate incentives to growth. All I’m saying is: have a long term vision that’s greater than yourself, that doesn’t end with your own petty needs.
Male impotence is tightly knit together with all other patterns discussed above. It’s the key epidemic. If you solve male impotence, you solve the other issues along the line. Hate is a luxury of the weak. Leadership and responsibility only work long term with moderate mindsets, not with extreme ones. Mental junk food is a fill-in for people, not doing what they should be doing. And short-sightedness is a mindset rooted in long-term evasion of taking charge for oneself and one’s tribe(s).
Men have to re-learn that most of their work won’t be acknowledged by neither other men, nor women, nor their bosses, nor their paychecks, nor the world. It will be acknowledged, when the man being responsible for an effort is long gone and mankind survived and is still there.
For 2014 I suggest to learn the art of potency in terms with women
- “Sperm Wars” by Robin Baker
- “Sex At Dawn” by Christopher Ryan
- “The Red Queen” by Matt Ridley
- “The Rational Male” by Rollo Tomassi
- “The Way Of The Superior Man” by David Deida
There is more to being a man than the “interacting with women” part, but I want to cover this in painful detail in future posts.
I know, I sound dark from time to time. I don’t mean to. I believe in people and I believe in a great future for more people than ever before. But I also believe in change. That’s why I’ve chosen to write publicly. and in order to change for the better, we have to face and address what’s going on.
You don’t have to run for office tomorrow. You don’t have to cure cancer the day after tomorrow. Just focus on making yourself strong and becoming the best version of yourself you can possibly be. So when it’s time, you can give your gift to the world with a smile and don’t have to back out and say “Sorrrry! I’m too fat/dumb/lazy/uneducated/blurry/pathetic.”
Remember, “preparation is key.”
No, wait…two more things:
First, don’t tell me you skimmed over this post. Reading is fun. If I can write this up in one sitting while on a train, you can read it.
Second, if you only read two books out of all those recommendations make them Tyler Cowen’s “Average is over” and Rollo Tomassi’s “The Rational Male”.
Stephen Covey’s “The 7 Habits of highly effective people” doesn’t even count. I just expect you have read it a few times. It’s one of the building blocks of this blog.
Lastly, this is not an absolute list, but simply a write up of the things I perceive to be urgent at this moment in time. I’ll add to it in the future and expand various themes. For now, 2 weeks into 2014, it’s a good start.
Thanks for reading!